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Energetic

Onyx Wave

A dark, deep, rolling-wave pose under low light.

Advanced25–40 minEnergetic

Climax intensity

Peak intensity — for partners ready for full-body release.

Step-by-step

  1. 1Dim the lights low.
  2. 2Lie face to face on your sides.
  3. 3Move with deep, rolling waves.
  4. 4End with a long held embrace.

Communication tips

  • Name each wave's depth.
  • Trade who is the wave.
  • End with a long shared breath.

Health benefits

  • Deeply intimate.
  • Hip-mobilizing.
  • Encourages slow tempo.

Body adjustments

  • Align spines parallel: stack ear over shoulder over hip; place a small pillow under the lower waist if the bed sinks.
  • Top leg arc: drape the upper leg over the partner's hip and rotate the knee outward to open the pelvis and shorten the depth of contact.
  • Bottom arm: extend it under the partner's neck or fold it under the head so the shoulder doesn't crunch — never trap circulation in the wrist.
  • Pelvic tuck: gently tuck the tailbone under to bring the pubic bones forward; this changes the angle without strain.
  • Slide a thin pillow between the knees if hips feel pinched — keeps the pelvis neutral for long sessions.

Partner cues

Receiver

  • Let the top hip roll slightly forward when you want deeper contact; roll it back to gentle the angle.
  • Soften the jaw and tongue — side positions invite long, slow exhales out of the mouth.
  • If the bottom shoulder aches, place a pillow under your head so the neck stays long.

Giver

  • Hook your top arm under the receiver's top thigh to support its weight; this saves their hip flexor.
  • Drive movement from the hips and obliques, not from the top arm pushing the partner away.
  • Keep your bottom knee tucked under their thigh to lock the frame in place.

Props & setup

  • A small pillow between the knees.
  • A folded towel under the lower waist.
  • A long body pillow behind the back partner for support.

Safety & comfort

  • Watch for arm numbness — switch sides if circulation tingles.
  • Stop and reset if any joint reports a sharp or sudden pain — sharp pain is information, not weakness.
  • Empty pockets, remove jewelry, and trim nails before close contact positions.
  • Use lubricant generously; friction is the most common reason a position 'doesn't feel right'.
  • Reset every 5–10 minutes: shake out the hands, roll the shoulders, hydrate.

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