Balanced intensity — climbs steadily with the right tempo.
Step-by-step
1Lie face to face, lightly close.
2Move with small, repetitive taps of motion.
3Pause every dozen taps for a breath.
4End with a long held embrace.
Communication tips
Tap the rhythm with a fingertip.
Trade who sets the rain's pace.
End with a shared exhale.
Health benefits
Light and rhythmic.
Encourages playful pacing.
Comfortable for long sessions.
Body adjustments
Pillow under the sacrum (not the lower back) lifts the pelvis a few degrees — this opens the angle, deepens contact, and protects the lumbar spine.
Knees soft: never lock them out. Let them fall open at whatever angle feels honest; bind a soft scarf below the knees if you want a passive frame.
Neck support: stack a small pillow so the chin stays slightly above the forehead — looking up at a sharp angle tightens the throat and shortens breath.
Lower back contact: press the lumbar gently toward the bed by engaging the lower belly 10%, just enough to feel the spine lengthen.
Foot placement: planting the soles wide and flat lets you push subtly into the ground and rock the pelvis without using arm strength.
Partner cues
Receiver
Let your weight melt into the bed — the more you release, the deeper your partner can read your micro-cues.
Tip your pelvis up an inch on the inhale, release on the exhale; this slow tilt is the most powerful adjustment you have.
Soften your eyes and the back of your throat; tension there mirrors all the way down to the pelvic floor.
Giver
Lift from your back leg and glute, not from your arms — saves your wrists for the long sessions.
Place a hand low on the receiver's belly to read their breath and time your motion to it.
If you're folding their legs up, support behind the knee crease, never on the kneecap itself.
Props & setup
A sex wedge or two firm pillows under the sacrum.
A small pillow under the neck.
A folded blanket under the knees for passive support.
Safety & comfort
If pregnant past 20 weeks, prop the right hip up so you're not flat on your back.
Stop and reset if any joint reports a sharp or sudden pain — sharp pain is information, not weakness.
Empty pockets, remove jewelry, and trim nails before close contact positions.
Use lubricant generously; friction is the most common reason a position 'doesn't feel right'.
Reset every 5–10 minutes: shake out the hands, roll the shoulders, hydrate.